Daryush Valizadeh, better known by pseudonym Roosh V, is fairly well known for his writings on seduction and antifeminism.
- Bang: The Pickup Bible That Helps You Get More Lays (2007)
- A Dead Bat In Paraguay: One Man's Peculiar Journey Through South America (2009)
- Bang Colombia: Textbook On How To Sleep With Colombian Women (2010)
- Roosh's Brazil Compendium: Pickup Tips, City Guides, And Stories (2010)
- Roosh's Argentina Compendium: Pickup Tips, City Guides, And Stories (2011)
- Day Bang: How To Casually Pick Up Girls During The Day (2011)
- Bang Iceland: How To Sleep With Icelandic Women In Iceland (2011)
- Don't Bang Denmark: How To Sleep With Danish Women In Denmark (If You Must) (2011)
- 30 Bangs: The Shaping Of One Man's Game From Patient Mouse To Rabid Wolf (2012)
- Bang Poland: How To Make Love With Polish Girls In Poland (2012)
- Don't Bang Latvia: How To Sleep With Latvian Women In Latvia Without Getting Scammed (2012)
- Bang Estonia: How To Sleep With Estonian Women In Estonia (2012)
- Bang Lithuania: How To Sleep With Lithuanian Women In Lithuania (2012)
- Bang Ukraine: How to Have Sex With Ukrainian Girls In Ukraine (2012)
Return Of Kings is a blog for heterosexual, masculine men. It’s meant for a small but vocal collection of men in America today who believe men should be masculine and women should be feminine.Which reminds me a lot of the Little Rascals and the He-Man Woman-Haters Club:
ROK aims to usher the return of the masculine man in a world where masculinity is being increasingly punished and shamed in favor of creating an androgynous and politically-correct society that allows women to assert superiority and control over men. Sadly, yesterday’s masculinity is today’s misogyny. The site intends to be a safe space on the web for those men who don’t agree with the direction that Western culture is headed....Women and homosexuals are prohibited from commenting here. They will be immediately banned, and anyone who replies to them will also be banned. This includes replying in any thread that they started.
From an El País review of his book on how to sleep with Colombian women:
Un estadounidense de 32 años identificado como Roosh V....escribió un manual para llevar a la cama a las mujeres de Cali, Medellín y Bogotá.
El libro se llama 'Bang Colombia: Textbook on How to Sleep With Colombian Women' (Manual de cómo acostarse con mujeres colombianas), y explica en cinco capítulos las mejores estrategias con las que un extranjero puede acostarse con una colombiana.
Según explica el autor...el libro es la recopilación de seis meses de trabajo de campo en los que dedicó su "existencia a descifrar el código de las mujeres colombianas, que son el mayor desafío de la parte occidental del mundo".
En la guía sobre las mujeres colombianas...plantea 'tips' que van desde cómo aprender a coquetear en español hasta cómo lidiar cuando se sale con una 'prepago'.
También entrega recomendaciones sobre cómo realizar un viaje a nuestro país, tips de cómo superar la seguridad de los claustros universitarios para acceder a las cafeterías de los mismos, donde según él, es el mejor lugar para encontrar pareja.
Frases como "Las mujeres colombianas no son tan calientes como las gringas y comerse una no será tan fácil", "la luna y las estrellas deben estar perfectamente alineadas para que ellas accedan" y "No es fácil llevar una colombiana a la cama", son algunas de las frases que se encuentran en el libro....
Mr. Valizadeh spent six month in Colombia, doing field work to decipher the code of Colombian women, whom he characterizes as the "biggest challenge in the Western World." His book provides tips from how to flirt in Spanish to how to deal with prepaid harlots. Some of the phrases found in the book: "Colombian women are not as hot as gringas and seducing one won't be as easy", "the moon and stars have to be in perfect alignment before they will yield", and "it isn't easy to bring a Colombian woman to bed." The reader comments to the article are hilarious, and pretty much refute Mr. Valizadeh's work:
--Este gringo debe ser o muy feo o muy pobre, de lo contrario no sé como pudo encontrar dificultad para levantarse un polvo en estas tres ciudades, o mejor dicho, en toda Colombia, donde no pueden ver un extranjero porque ya se le entregan en bandeja de plata.
--Al ser el autor "gringo" y encima decir que encontró gran dificultad para copular desmerita totalmente a este supuesto "experto."But, anyway, if one can make a living from traveling around the world and seducing women, then why not?
Some of Mr. Valizadeh's articles on Return of Kings are quite amusing, and often provoke entertaining responses from Feminists. For example, The 9 Ugliests Feminists in America generated rejoinders from Kasey Edwards, Rebecca Schoenkopf, and Desiree Meyers-Liebowitz. Callie Beusman wrote "Quit Paying Attention to That Vile Troll Website": a fairly lengthy commentary that included discussions of some of Mr. Valizadeh's juicier quotes. I'm starting to think that Mr. Valizadeh is engaging in a bit of pigtail transfer--he was too shy to tease girls when he was in elementary school, so he is doing it now, and he knows that the girls can't smack him through the computer. The Feminists need him, too, so that they can yell "Misogyny!" at someone.
Mr. Valizadeh's article, published 25 May, 2014, and concerning Elliot Rodger's recent mass-murder/suicide, was a tad tacky (although I'm sure that he was going for tacky--his writing did generate some publicity).
No One Would Have Died If PUAHate Killer Elliot Rodger Learned Game
On Friday, May 23, Elliot Rodger killed six people because he was frustrated and angry from not being able to experience intimacy with women. He left a trail of Youtube videos, internet postings, and even a manifesto that clearly details how his sexual frustration was the principal reason for his murderous rampage.
Six lives would have been saved if there was a societal mechanism to steer sexually frustrated males like Rodger into learning self-improvement, game, and masculinity, the very values that are taught here and on many other manosphere sites that inexplicably have been attacked, disparaged, and even sought for eradication by the American media and blogosphere, men’s rights activists, “PUA haters”, and progressive organizations like the Southern Poverty Law Center. All these groups are complicit for creating a cultural environment that allowed this massacre to occur. It is them who must accept responsibility for these seven deaths and make the moral change to their ideologies in order to prevent such an act from happening again.
It’s important to state that Elliot Rodger was undoubtedly mentally unstable and required professional supervision. Diagnosed with Asperger’s, he clearly exhibited narcissistic and sociopathic traits that no doubt prevented him from empathizing with others. Nonetheless, his videos and writings do display an above-average intelligence and the propensity to connect with individuals in certain cases. He was not that much worse off than many socially awkward males who grew up isolated as teenagers, unable to perform well in social interactions. I’ve personally interacted with men who functioned lower than him, but were later able to successfully meet average-looking women and achieve intimacy with them.
Rodger’s manifesto clearly states that his utter failure with women drove him to murder. The problem that he experienced is not unique—many men in Western society graduate from high school or college to realize that they have absolutely no skill or ability to seduce the opposite sex. We live in a society where being shy, normal, or a little awkward is duly punished by entitled American women who have been encouraged to pursue exciting and fun casual sex in their prime with sexy and hot men as a way of “experimentation.” They are enabled by the culture to seek out bad boys while rejecting the nice guy who is “boring.” This behavior continues until they find that they are past their physical prime, whereby the nice guy is plucked from a spartan sexual existence and expected to keep his mouth shut when a trickle flow of informational torture reveals that his bride-to-be has experienced more than a dozen different penises in her vagina, anus, and mouth—the same mouth that is supposed to kiss his future children good night.
The choices presented to Rodger
What options does a man like Rodger have if his existing social ability is simply not able to attract the women he wants? What should he do to enter a relationship with a reasonably attractive girl who has not yet had dozens of penises inside her, who is sweet and kind instead of bitter and jaded from becoming a professional attention whore on Facebook, Tinder, and OK Cupid via the iPhone that she’s addicted to? It depends on who you ask. Here are the answers that Rodger either received or could have received:
Rodger should have checked his male privilege at the door and atoned for the sins of thousands of years of “male patriarchy.” He was likely exposed to infantile “trigger warnings” during the course of his education. He received direct propaganda that insinuates all men are potential rapists. American universities are becoming firmly anti-male with their extreme left ideology and policies. Just recently, the Justice Department has ushered in directives that attempt to restrict the definition of consensual sex, making any attempt by Rodger to fornicate with a female at a college party a potential rape encounter that would have gotten him kicked out of school without a trial. Pro-female policies now dominate most American universities. Rodger would definitely not have received a sympathetic ear to his plight.
American media and organizations
They have been telling him for years that he’s a sexist creep without even knowing it, and that only feminism, the promotion of female needs above men, is the true path to “equality.” Before he would even find a useful resource that helps him learn how to meet women, he would have been exposed to endless articles demonizing those resources as racist, misogynist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, and cis-normative (whatever that means). Think I’m exaggerating? Here are some examples:
Promotion of masculine ideals is trolling
The manosphere is misogynist
Return Of Kings is offensive
Private communications of “pickup artist” deserves mockery
Writing dating tips is misogynist
Game hurts “everybody”
Only sexist women are receptive to game
Misogynist web sites denounced by organization who shared information with the FBI
Yours truly nominated to be the worst person on the entire internet
Yours truly the most misogynist man in the world for teaching societal truths and game to men
The amount of negative publicity written about Return Of Kings, me, game, and the manosphere in general seems endless if you spend just a bit of time on Google and Twitter. It’s clear that any mention of game in the mainstream sources that Rodger would definitely have been exposed to (the sites above receive millions of unique visitors every month) clearly shows that he would have been inclined to develop a negative opinion of game before fully knowing what it’s about. It appears that a goal of many popular publications is to inoculate and brainwash men like Rodger into believing game is actually equivalent to rape.
PUA Hate and Men’s Rights Activists
Would Rodger have received help for his loneliness if he found MRA’s and PUA haters? Definitely not. MRA’s would simply sit him down and detail how male circumcision and male rape by women are the most pressing concerns of men today. They would have given him absolutely no aid on solving his loneliness problem, advocating for him to instead become a victim.
PUA haters, best exemplified by the forum PUAhate.com, are even more dangerous. As an active member of this site, Rodger was surrounded by a community of men who nurtured and cultivated his hate. These men don’t believe in game and instead think the only path to a healthy sex life is to be rich and good looking, two beliefs that Rodger actively believed. It is through PUA Hate where he was able to meet other virgins and mentally unstable men to provide him with comfort while encouraging his budding hatred not just against women for serving him rejections—something that pro-game advocates accept as normal—but also society as a whole for not giving him what he believed he deserved. To give you an idea how twisted the members of PUAHate are, his rampage was actually praised. There are not many sites on the internet where someone is lauded as a hero for killing others, but PUAHate is one of them:
PUA Hate suddenly went offline, but we must wonder if Rodger used the site to privately communicate with other men to actively plan out the killings, and if more of them are in the works. I wouldn’t be surprised to find out in the future that the site’s owner destroyed evidence that showed how Rodger’s PUA Hate friends knew of his intentions.
His parents, psychologists, and professors
They also did not provide Rodger with useful answers. His parents were aloof and his father never taught him how to be good with women (the manifesto details how supplicative his father was to Rodger’s stepmother). His psychiatrists likely wanted to pump him with meds to zombify him, maybe even trying to label his frustration with women as latent misogyny. His professors would push the leftist dogma where men are the source of all societal problems. He should humble himself, they’d prescribe, to others who don’t have as much inherent “privilege” as himself.
Return Of Kings, The Red Pill, RVF, myself
If Rodger came to me, he would have received actionable and effective advice. He would have been exposed to material detailing how socially corrupt American society has become, and how being a beta male provider—his principal strategy in trying to get laid—is no longer useful in achieving intimacy with women who now see men as entertaining clowns that should provide them with excitement, drama, and tension. After these truths would be painfully delivered to Rodger, he would have to make the personal choice to accept them or not, but based on his intelligence level, I have little doubt that he would, as it would match what he saw on campus with what he termed “obnoxious” (i.e. “alpha”) men getting the girls he wanted.
After digesting the red pill (our sphere’s metaphor for truth), he would start his game training. I’ve clearly laid out a program that has helped thousands of men who were in almost the exact same situation as Rodger. There is no evidence that Rodger executed even basic game theory. We can’t say for sure if he would have been a good student of the game or achieved high success from using it, because his mental illness no doubt affected his faculties, but the bar to success for him was low. According to his manifesto, all he wanted was a date. As in… one date. Take a look at his own words:
I was hoping I would get some sort of answer from girls [from posting my Youtube videos]. IN fact, a small part of me was even hoping that a girl would see the video and contact me to give me a chance to go on a date. That alone would have prevented the Day of Retribution, if one girl had just given me one chance. But no…As expected, I got absolutely no response from any girls. [...] Women don’t care about me at all. They won’t even deign to tell my why they’ve mistreated me. This just shows how evil and sadistic they are. Oh well, they will realize the gravity of their crimes when I slaughter them all on the Day of Retribution.Would the teachings that this part of the internet offer give him that one date? Would the advice of the men on RVF have given him the encouragement, motivation, and support to stop wallowing in self-pity and grandeur to approach women with the game that women today want? The answer is yes. I firmly believe that we would have given him his date, and it’s this date that would have quieted his deranged propensity to kill, or at least postponed it until an intervention could have occurred. Only game and red pill truths would have been sufficient in changing this deadly outcome. Everyone else, from his parents to his university and especially to the media he may have consumed, absolutely failed to help him in a way that we definitely could have.
Even after the killings, the media is parading out the phantom spirit of misogyny, perpetuating a tired cycle of shaming men in the name of protecting women, even though Rodger killed more men than women.
--Elizabeth Plank says we need to stamp out misogyny, even though Rodger developed a hatred for everyone in society
--Jessica Valenti says misogyny kills, even though four men died compared to two women
Who cares about the males that Rodger killed, because, like, misogyny! The disregard for any concern for men, including the ones killed by Rodger, means that more men will churn through this toxic anti-male culture, maybe one day deciding that killing is also their only option for deliverance.
I was not in a different boat than Rodger
I know Rodger would have been helped because I experienced much of what he did. I was lonely and lacking in female affection, but this was way back in 2001, before game was treated as the devil it is today. There was no cultural barrier for me to learn its principles. There was no PUA Hate that would’ve allowed me to connect with other bitter, demented, and possibly criminal men. There was no Buzzfeed (everyday sexism!) and Huffington Post (homosexuality is great!) to brainwash me into thinking that approaching women and having masculine sexual desire is sexist or misogynist, or that I must embrace a pro-homosexual lifestyle and the needs of gays over my own. There was no institutional formula in attacking what I learned and what thankfully gave me the intimacy I desired.
Seven people are dead because society has decided that shy and awkward men like Elliot Rodger do not deserve a girlfriend and that there is absolutely no way to improve his loneliness and loserdom through learning game or any other social behavior. At the same time men like him are ostracized, there is no legal means for him to solicit prostitution (in California) to release his biological and very pressing urge for fornication. Current cultural dogma wants to sweep the millions of lonely men like Rodger under the rug while instead focusing on gay marriage, “street harassment,” lack of empowered girls in video games, “rape culture,” and the horrors of letting young girls wear pink and play with dolls.
The new “let them eat cake” is “let these socially awkward privileged losers have xbox and pornhub.” Yet we still feign outrage and surprise when every so often one of them picks up a gun and starts shooting. The same people who attack game refuse to give men like Rodger a way to achieve sexual happiness, and for that they are indirectly responsible for these deaths, which could have been avoided if Rodger was steered into game and not shamed for it.
More people will die unless you give men sexual options
Until you give men like Rodger a way to have sex, either by encouraging them to learn game, seek out a Thai wife, or engage in legalized prostitution—three things that the American media and cultural elite venomously attack, it’s inevitable for another massacre to occur. Even game itself, as useful as it is on an individual level, is a band-aid fix upon a culture which has stopped rewarding nice guys while encouraging female whoring to benefit only the top 10% of alpha males, all in the name of societal progress. Game is a tiny release valve on a cultural pressure cooker where meaningful relationships have become sick, fractured, and unfulfilling compared to the time of our grandparents when traditional sex roles existed. Game may not have led Rodger to find his dream girl and live happily ever after, but it would have given enough results to stop him from killing six innocent individuals and himself. Until you allow and encourage all men to get sex by some means, these massacres will be more commonplace as America’s cultural decline continues.Mr. Rodger had an autism-spectrum disorder, and was probably also a member of WrongPlanet, an online community for people with autism-spectrum disorders. On that site, "Waahhh! I'm such a nice guy, but no girl wants to have sex with me! They only want to spread their legs for the jerks!" is a VERY common theme. In fact, they currently have plenty of ongoing discussions, where they see parallels between Mr. Rodger's sentiments and their own experiences. Autistic people often suffer from extreme bullying, as did Mr. Rodger. A lot of autistic men (especially in the USA) have a really hard time getting any sex. Both of these are big issues for a lot of them. And, some (very few) may turn deadly. Mr. Valizadeh mentioned narcissistic and sociopathic traits. Persons with Narcissistic Personality Disorders are interpersonally exploitive, and take advantage of others to achieve their own ends. This young man clearly did not have the social skills to turn on the artificial charm that narcissists use to become interpersonally exploitive. Men who are narcissistic typically have absolutely no trouble getting laid. A lot of women actually find their attitudes to be quite sexy. Mr. Elliot's situation really didn't have anything to do with narcissism, men's rights activists, misogyny, patriarchy, or anything else. Some autistic people reach their breaking point, and that's it. They snap.
Mr. Valizadeh's claim that his "game" techniques "would have given enough results to stop him from killing six innocent individuals and himself" is, of course, impossible to substantiate at this point. On April 7, 2011 Wellington Menezes de Oliveira shot and killed 12 children, wounded 12 others, and then killed himself in a school in Rio de Janeiro. According to former schoolmates he was a strange, very reserved person who was constantly harassed by others. In a video he had recorded two days prior to the shooting, Mr. Menezes stated: "The struggle for which many brothers died in the past, and for which I will die, is not solely because of what is known as bullying. Our fight is against cruel people, cowards, who take advantage of the kindness, the weakness of people unable to defend themselves."
For Mr. Menezes, it was purely about the bullying, and there was nothing about a lack of sex. In fact, I've never heard of a Brazilian man complain that he couldn't get laid. Brazil is among the planet's most sexually-satisfied nations. The United States among the least. A bit of sex might have precluded Mr. Elliot's murder-suicide spree, and might prevent others, but there can be no guarantees.
According to a Danish Report,
...there is more sexual frustration in autistic men as a result of the discrepancy between their interest in sexual activity and their lack of sexual experience. This is not the case among the female residents who have more sexual experiences with others. This study also shows that sexual experience in a group of mentally retarded people was generally greater than in the group of autistic people....A few well-defined suggestions exist on how one can support, teach and bring up autistic people in relation to their sexual needs. When the question is one of satisfying a sexual need, efforts are mainly focused on the young person’s masturbatory practices and rarely on how the young person can be supported in his or her sexual contacts...Mentally-retarded people are doing better sexually than are autistic men. Well, yes, many of the so-called "jerks" and "thugs" who garner plenty of female attention do seem to be somewhat intellectually challenged. Autistic women, on the other hand, generally don't have much trouble getting laid, possibly because a lot of guys may perceive them as easy targets.
Mr. Valizadeh's article did generate quite a lot of responses, many of which were vitriolic. Tom Boggioni wrote:
Anti-woman Website Predicts More Elliot Rodgers if Society Doesn’t Provide them with SexAna Kasparian used Mr. Boggioni's commentary about Mr. Valizadeh's column in her video "Response to Disgusting UC Santa Barbara Shooter Supporter,", rather than Mr. Valizadeh's article itself.
A website popular with the online Pick-up Artist community responded to Elliott Rodger’s murderous Santa Barbara rampage, saying it could have been avoided if Rodger had ‘game,’ like they profess to possess, before concluding that “more people will die” unless society provides men with more “sexual options.”
The Return of Kings article, written by ‘Roosh,’ goes to elaborate lengths to explain that the PUA-hate community that Rodger was a part of held him back from learning the “masculine” art of seduction – which they call “game” – and, combined with the “American media, the blogosphere, men’s rights activists, and progressive organizations like the Southern Poverty Law Center,” Rodger was encouraged to hate and ultimately murder women.
“All these groups are complicit for creating a cultural environment that allowed this massacre to occur, ” Roosh wrote. “It is them (sic) who must accept responsibility for these seven deaths and make the moral change to their ideologies in order to prevent such an act from happening again.
Stating that Rodger was “undoubtedly mentally unstable and required professional supervision,” Roosh concludes from watching Rodger’s YouTube videos that he displayed “an above-average intelligence and the propensity to connect with individuals in certain cases.”
He adds, “I’ve personally interacted with men who functioned lower than him, but were later able to successfully meet average-looking women and achieve intimacy with them.”
Roosh goes on to say, “We live in a society where being shy, normal, or a little awkward is duly punished by entitled American women who have been encouraged to pursue exciting and fun casual sex in their prime with sexy and hot men as a way of ‘experimentation.’”
He then explains that when women have “passed their physical prime” they then select a “nice guy” with whom to settle down, with the understanding that he is “expected to keep his mouth shut when a trickle flow of informational torture reveals that his bride-to-be has experienced more than a dozen different penises in her vagina, anus, and mouth—the same mouth that is supposed to kiss his future children good night.” ...
...“If Rodger came to me, he would have been received actionable and effective advice, ” Roosh explains. “He would have been exposed to material detailing how socially corrupt American society has become, and how being a beta male provider—his principal strategy in trying to get laid—is no longer useful in achieving intimacy with women who now see men as entertaining clowns that should provide them with excitement, drama, and tension.”
Admitting that he was once “no different than Rodger,” Roosh continued, “Seven people are dead because society has decided that shy and awkward men like Elliot Rodger do not deserve a girlfriend and that there is absolutely no way to improve his loneliness and loserdom through learning game or any other social behavior. At the same time men like him are ostracized, there is no legal means for him to solicit prostitution (in California) to release his biological and very pressing urge for fornication.”
Roosh recommends that society change its ways, warning: “More people will die unless you give men sexual options.”
“Until you give men like Rodger a way to have sex, either by encouraging him to learn game, seek out a Thai wife, or engage in legalized prostitution—three things that the American media and cultural elite venomously attack, it’s inevitable for another massacre to occur. Even game itself, as useful as it is on a individual level, is a band-aid fix upon a culture which has stopped rewarding nice guys while encouraging female whoring to benefit only the top 10% of alpha males, all in the name of societal progress.”
Miss Kasparian starts off by stating quite emphatically that she doesn't like the idea of anyone feeling any sympathy for Mr. Rodger. Then, Miss Kasparian goes through most of the quotes provided by Mr. Boggioni, in the order that they appeared in Mr. Boggioni's article. Starting with:
“All these groups are complicit for creating a cultural environment that allowed this massacre to occur. It is them (sic) who must accept responsibility for these seven deaths and make the moral change to their ideologies in order to prevent such an act from happening again."Miss Kasparian even left Mr. Boggioni's "(sic)" in there, and stated that by "all these groups", Mr. Valizadeh was referring to "anti-pickup artists and Feminists." In fact, in his original article, Mr. Valizadeh didn't state that Feminists were responsible "for creating a cultural environment that allowed this massacre to occur". Rather, he blamed " the American media, the blogosphere, men’s rights activists, and progressive organizations like the Southern Poverty Law Center", for discouraging sexually frustrated males from learning "self-improvement, game and masculinity." I think that there are quite a lot of young men (and older men) in America who do feel sexually frustrated, and who do share Roosh's perspective--at least some of the overall themes, if not the nitty-gritty details (what the heck does the Southern Policy Law Center have to do with anything?). Mr. Valizadeh 's emphasis is on trying to get men to learn his "game" techniques, and to sell his books. If this helps some men to get a bit of coitus, then great. For me, I think that most of the women in this country aren't worth the trouble. However, I think that Mr. Rodger was smart enough that he should have been able to get past the Southern Poverty Law Center et al. to find out about various seduction techniques. Or, at least he should have been able to figure out how to hire an escort, or how to drive his BMW to Tijuana.
Moreover, contrary to Miss Kasparian's assertion, Mr. Valizadeh didn't state that it was unacceptable for women to participate in casual sex. Rather, he was merely pointing out the reality, that "we live in a society where being shy, normal, or a little awkward is duly punished by entitled American women who have been encouraged to pursue exciting and fun casual sex in their prime with sexy and hot men as a way of experimentation. They are enabled by the culture to seek out seek out bad boys while rejecting the nice guy who is boring. This behavior continues until they find that they are passed their physical prime, whereby the nice guy is selected from a Spartan sexual existence..." And, he instructs men on how to deal with this reality. Lori Gottlieb was basically saying the same things as Mr. Valizadeh, but from a woman's perspective:
...we’d be loath to admit it in this day and age, but ask any soul-baring 40-year-old single heterosexual woman what she most longs for in life, and she probably won’t tell you it’s a better career or a smaller waistline or a bigger apartment. Most likely, she’ll say that what she really wants is a husband (and, by extension, a child).By the age of 40, and well past her physical prime, a woman will be willing to settle for what Mr. Valizadeh calls a "nice guy" who has endured "a Spartan sexual existence." A man whom she might have rejected 10-20 years earlier, because she was too busy being boned by the baaad boys. Mr. Valizadeh claims to offer some techniques for allowing the "nice guys" to get some of that action, too, with women who are still in their physical prime. And, Miss Gottlieb is advising the ladies to hold their noses, and condescend to settle for one of those unfortunate, wretched, annoying, low-status men, in lieu of facing lifelong spinsterhood. Mr. Valizadeh and Miss Gottlieb are addressing the same phenomenon, but from opposite perspectives.
To the outside world, of course, we still call ourselves feminists and insist—vehemently, even—that we’re independent and self-sufficient and don’t believe in any of that damsel-in-distress stuff, but in reality, we aren’t fish who can do without a bicycle, we’re women who want a traditional family. And despite growing up in an era when the centuries-old mantra to get married young was finally (and, it seemed, refreshingly) replaced by encouragement to postpone that milestone in pursuit of high ideals (education! career! but also true love!), every woman I know—no matter how successful and ambitious, how financially and emotionally secure—feels panic, occasionally coupled with desperation, if she hits 30 and finds herself unmarried....
....Whether you acknowledge it or not, there’s good reason to worry. By the time 35th-birthday-brunch celebrations roll around for still-single women, serious, irreversible life issues masquerading as “jokes” creep into public conversation: Well, I don’t feel old, but my eggs sure do! or Maybe this year I’ll marry Todd. I’m not getting any younger!...Is it better to be alone, or to settle?
My advice is this: Settle! That’s right. Don’t worry about passion or intense connection. Don’t nix a guy based on his annoying habit of yelling “Bravo!” in movie theaters. Overlook his halitosis or abysmal sense of aesthetics. Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year.
Miss Kasparian is almost 28 years old, which is somewhat past the age of nubility, but with a reasonable amount of residual reproductive value remaining. At this point, she is no doubt still enjoying tremendous sex with a wide variety of handsome, well-endowed, high-status males. Since she is a well-known celebrity, she will probably eventually marry another well-known celebrity. They almost always do. Maybe the Amazing Atheist,
or someone of similar status. We'll see their pictures every week on the covers of the grocery-store magazines. She won't have to settle for one of those disgusting low-lives who can't bring in a substantial salary to complement hers.
The final quote that Miss Kasparian used was:
Until you give men like Rodger a way to have sex, either by encouraging him to learn game, seek out a Thai wife, or engage in legalized prostitution—three things that the American media and cultural elite venomously attack, it’s inevitable for another massacre to occur.With regard to this quote, Miss Kasparian stated that Mr. Valizadeh's tactic was to "shift the blame onto women. Shift the blame onto, hey, this dude couldn't legally find a Thai wife. And go ahead and blame the victims in this case." Miss Kasparian stated further that "it is absolutely sick and maddening that there are people out there who think that kind of thought and that type of ideology is acceptable and okay." Actually, Mr. Valizadeh wasn't blaming women, nor the victims. Nor the fact that "this dude couldn't legally find a Thai wife." Marrying a Thai woman is not illegal. Mr. Valizadeh was blaming "the American media and cultural elite" for venomously attacking three possible ways for Mr. Rodger to acquire sex.
Miss Kasparian continues:
Someone needs to stand up, and give them a middle finger, and tell them "No! That is NOT the right way. You are NOT entitled to have sex with whomever you want. You are NOT entitled to force or manipulate someone into having sex with you." That goes for both men and women. It has to be consensual. And in a day and age when we're dealing with rapes on college campuses, and inaction when it comes to testing rape kits and actually prosecuting rapists, it makes me sick to my stomach that an [expletive] like this can post something about a tragic even that happened over the weekend.Miss Kasparian is becoming hysterical at this point. Mr. Valizadeh never said anything about raping anyone, nor that anyone was entitled to have coitus with whomever one wished. We aren't exactly bonobos. And, this is trashy journalism. She has the Feminist buzzwords "Sexual Entitlement" on the screen, apparently to emphasize the Feminist notion that women should be entitled to have sex with whomever they please, and that men should be content with masturbation. At the end of the video, Miss Kasparian proposed "Maybe talking about comprehensive sex ed., and talking about how masturbation is a healthy way to relieve yourself of sexual frustration....We should have an open mind about this particular incident and what occurred that night..." Miss Kasparian obviously never read Mr. Rodgers' manifesto, or she would have been aware of the fact that Mr. Rodger was already a fervent practitioner of the fine art of masturbation. With her open mind, Miss Kasparian ought to be able to propose a better solution.
Maggie McNeill writes:
...male sexuality tends to get out of control when untended. I’m sure every sexually experienced female reader knows exactly what I’m talking about; if for some reason you can’t give your man any tail for a while his sexual fantasies and sex talk usually start to get stranger and more extreme as the days go by, and your normal man’s sexuality may go from vanilla to kinky to perverted to weird to just plain sick. Most men don’t really want to do the more unusual stuff they’re talking about, but they sure as hell think about it, and one can only imagine how bad it gets for men who don’t have regular bed partners. Whores, of course, don’t have to imagine; we see all the time what happens when an untended male fire spreads beyond its proper boundaries and endangers others. If the untended male is in the right (or rather, wrong) position these can even become wildfires which threaten entire populations and can cause millions of dollars of damage...Miss McNeill includes a sage quote attributed to Marlene Dietrich: "A country without bordellos is like a house without bathrooms." Mr. Valizadeh's proposal, that we should give men like Mr. Rodger a way to have sex, by encouraging them either to learn how to seduce women, to seek out a Thai wife, or to engage in legalized prostitution, isn't at all unreasonable. Results of a survey showed that, in the Northeast Isaan region of Thailand, more than 60% of the single women were interested in marrying a foreign husband. So, why not?
Or, as Miss Kaspasian stated that "we should have an open mind", why don't the Feminists offer Free Sex Saturdays, specifically for men who can't get laid, with special invitations to the autistic? The Feminists are already enjoying quite a lot of sex with a variety of handsome, high-status men every other day of the week. What would be the harm in administering orgasms to some less fortunate men, for a few hours every Saturday afternoon? So long as you didn't collect any fees or donations, there would be no basis for a prostitution charge. It would be a benevolent act of charity and kindness, and could even result in a large number of conversions to male Feminism. You might even consider it a form of proselytizing.
While this might reduce the number of sexually-frustrated autistic men going on murder-suicide rampages in the future, as an added precaution, it might be wise to keep them away from knives, guns, and other dangerous weapons. Just be very careful not to bully any autistic people, and keep them all sexually sated. That ought to put an end to some of the vexations that can lead to killing sprees.